The first thing to know about the beloved home is that it takes time to create. Just as our own becoming is not a matter of hours if we are to be deep and multi-faceted people, a home that reflects and expresses the life lived within it cannot be quickly made. Every woman sitting on her in-laws old sofa or sliding a match book under a wobbly end table has dreamed of an unlimited Pottery Barn gift card and a big truck pulling up to the house with the contents of all her dog-eared catalogue pages inside…